How To Know If You’re a Narcissists

Some might wonder, why they attract narcissists and or may have been called a narcissist by someone, ultimately resulting in questioning if you are the narcissist. Great thinking, because you have located the right article!

Symptoms of Narcissism

Narcissistic personality disorder is a personality disorder, consisting of lack of empathy, exploitation, self absorption, pre-occupation with success, a desire to be surrounded with celebrities, wealth, special people or prestige individuals. It is about having a thirst for admiration, as well as, fixation of love fantasies. Narcissists have a false self, and authenticity and pre-occupation with their own needs, thoughts and desires. Narcissists also have an inability to put themselves in other shoes. Of course, it doesn’t mean you have to possess all of the above traits, but a good amount of them to be qualified for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Also, there is a difference between one qualifying for personality disorder versus having narcissistic traits, a.k.a. Narcissism. The term, “narcissist” is thrown around today and overly used.

“My Ex Is A Narcissist”

In today’s world, it appears everyone is being classified as a narcissist; your ex partner, parent (s), children, friend, lover, etc. Newsflash! Narcissism is simply being overused and stigmatized in today’s society. There are so many narcissistic coaches, yet most of those narcissistic coaches do not have a mental health background, which perpetuates the stereotype. Everyone is not a narcissist but I have a feeling, that the people over using the clinical term, suffer from a lack of understanding, or from narcissistic traits themselves, which they are projecting outward, onto others. There are many variations of narcissism from malignant narcissism, covert narcissism, narcissistic injury narcissistic needs, altruistic narcissism and dark empathy.

How do I know if I am not a narcissist?

In the Clinical sense, have you ever asked yourself if you are narcissistic? Would you ever seek counsel, when troubled? If you have never pondered the question, then how do you know if you are not projecting your own narcissism onto others? If you have ever wondered if you are the narcissist, chances are you are not, why? Because a narcissist would never ask nor wonder. A narcissist would never inquire and they rarely seek counsel, therapy or advice. In their eyes, everyone else is the problem and they had no participation. Chances are, if you are unable to have insight into your behavior or the part you play, you are playing a big part in the troubles surrounding you.

I delve deeper into this subject on my podcast Decoding Spiritual Mysteries. You can download my podcast on Apple, Pandora and Spotify, to get more details about the root causes of narcissism.

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Dr. Chiaku Hanson